San Diego Dating Blog

I dunno why it says my last blog entry was back in April. I think a more recent entry must have been erased or something weird because there is no way I let more than a month go without an entry. Let me try and bring you guys up to speed on what has been happening. I have been working hard on trying to meet some awesome foreign girls but it is tough lol. The way that I find them other than by searching for the names of their countries is by reading the profiles and looking for broken english. I am done with regular north american women. They suck balls and they are all a bunch of fruity whores. Ok well maybe I am being a bit harsh, but it just seems that women from other cultures seem to be more down to earth and less like the bitchy whining sluts that I encounter here in USA. Girls from other cultures seem to be more cultured and they appreciate the little things in life much more than the skanks from north america. I really enjoy talking to women where English is not their first language because the relationship tends to move much slower and there is more body language involved. Stupid firefox doesn't think that skanks is a real word but trust me it is lol.

I think I have about 5 different girls that I am actively chatting with and they are all foreign girls. The one that is my favorite so far has to be this Spanish girl named Maria that moved to USA 3 years ago. She said when she first moved here she didn't speak English at all but now she seems to be pretty good at it but she has a strong thick accent still. I went out with her for the first time last night. I had been trying to get here to meet me for a few weeks but it seemed like our schedules were constantly conflicting. Usually I like to take a girl out for coffee first because it seems so much more informal and it seems like there is way less pressure on both parties vs going to a restaurant but since we both just finished work on Friday night, coffee was out of the question so I took her out for dinner instead. She said she really likes Italian food and I love Italian food so I told her to meet me at this place here in San Diego called De Medici Ristorante Italiano around 6:30pm. I got there at 6:15 and went and sat down and ordered a drink which I slammed back because I was feeling kind of nervous.

Well I wasn't really nervous, let me rephrase that... I was anxious. She finally showed up about 5 minutes late and she came over to the table. She looked really good strolling across the dining room to my table. I rose and was about to stick my hand out and shake her hand when she gave me a hug and kissed me on the cheek, I kinda kissed her cheek too, I guess that is how they roll in Spain or whatever. They are very warm and affectionate people I guess. She ordered a drink and then we talked for a while, ordered our food. The food was really good and she seemed to be really enjoying herself. She was laughing and smiling a lot and to me she felt like a breath of fresh air vs the other donkey whores I had been taking out and wasting money on while they chatted on their blackberry and did another annoying shit constantly throughout the date. After dinner we had some coffee and some awesome deserts and then we hopped in a taxi and headed to her place to drop her off. We were sitting out front of her place and she was saying she had a great time and would love to go out with me again sometime then we kissed and then she left. I am pretty happy about it and I hope that she doesn't pull something weird or random and stop talking to me now because I want to see her again.

Still no luck meeting any Irish girl or really any girls with a cool accent thus far. This by no means that I have been striking out. Quite the contrary actually. I have been exchanging messages with quite a few chicks and I am constantly surfing the site and looking at the new users. The site really cool because you can click to see all the new girls that joined the site in the last 24 hours that live really close to your house. Let's face it, there is no point getting into a relationship with someone that lives far away. You are only setting yourself up for even more misery than you had when you were single. I have got messages from some girls who are clearly interested in me but when I Google where they live I see it would be like an hour drive there each way. That shit just does not work so my philosophy or strategy I should say or maybe I should my advice to guys out there that are single... make sure when you ARE single, while you still have options, that you be patient enough to find a girl you like that lives close to you. That way once you make the connection, you are able to nurture it without long absences.

Let me tell you about the girls that I have been hooking up with. The first girl her name is Cindy and she is 22 and she is still finishing school. She looks lie a total blond ditz and if you didn't know her you would think she was dumb and all, but she wasn't. She really wasn't. She was really smart and all and not in the way that you think. She was smart in a way that made other girls jealous and made guys attracted to her. She has big blue eyes and looks a bit like a doll when you stare into her eyes. You would swear you were looking to the sun itself, you really would. I have been talking to her for some weeks now and I finally got her to go out with me last Friday night. I told her we shoudl take cabs so we could both have a drink, because I like to drink when I am around other women and I like to drink when I am alone. So we met up at this restaurant called Il Fornaio. The place was very nice, in a way that you could be romantic with a woman. You got that sense as soon as you walked into this place. You could see all the different couples who may have once sat in these seats and started the beginning of something special. The place smelled like romance.

I had veal and she had black cod. I started wondering during dinner what her intimate parts smelled like. Nobody likes to think about those things, but the more I watched her put that fish into her mouth, the more curious I became. I wondered if she smelled like my ex girlfriend Marie who smelled like Peaches or if she smelled like Betty Sue the gir I finger-banged when I was a kid. These are probably not the kind of thoughts I should have been having but one something like this pops into my mind, I have to work it through. I decided I would worry about that later and if she did smell I would work around it and maybe never see her again. I was probably thinking too far ahead anyways. We finished our main courses and the waiter came and asked if we wanted coffee. Of course we WANTED coffee, I mean who doesn't want coffee after they eat a meal? Your body tells you it wants it because it craves sugar. So we had coffee and talked some more. She was not a boring girl but not that interesting either. I have been with boring girls before. I really have.

We left the restaurant after dinner and took a taxi to her place. We pulled up to her place and I was about to pay the driver and get out and she said thanks for dinner, gave me a cheek, and exited the taxi. I spent the taxi ride home wondering what it was that I must have done to turn her off or if maybe she was being sincere and really did have a good time but just wants to move slow. I decided I would give her a chance. It is Monday night now as I write this and still no word from her. I think I screwed up. I really think I did.

I am finally back from Brazil! Just over a month ago I got an invitation from my uncle who is doing research in the rain forests of Brazil to come and help him with a project. His assistant fell ill and he couldn't find anyone else to help him and he offered to fly me there and to pay me to work for him so I said fuck it and went. My job was really cool and let me go and said I would still have a job when I got back. I guess that is what happens when you actually are a profitable employee, thank god for sales. I never ended up going on dates with those 2 girls because he got me on a flight the very next day. I actually put up a message on my profile saying not to bother to message me because I was not going to be around to reply or to go on dates. We did have some satellite internet access there but it was very limited and very expensive and I was only allowed to use it to communicate with my family, not to do anything leisurely with.

Now that I am back I am going to definitely get back on the dating wagon and go out with some girls. I have fixed up my profile and removed the message and later tonight I am going to browse through the online dating site and look at all the new girls that have registered in the last 30 days and then send out some messages. I fully expect to get lots of messages back from girls. I kind of am interested in some latin women now since I have been in Brazil. I am not sure if there are many hot latina girls living here in San Diego but if there is and if they are members of the online dating site I belong to, you better believe I am going to find them and get them to go out on a date with me. There is something mysterious and exciting about foreign women who speak with an accent. I have also always wanted to go to Ireland and meet some Irish women because I love their accents. I also like French accents and I should hit up Paris sometime and meet some hot French honies too.

My stupid firefox is telling me that honies is not spelled properly bah - they need to update their shit. There really isn't much more for me to tell you right now other than that I have lots of TV shows I need to catch up on now that I am back in civilization. I need to watch Survivor, True Blood, 30 Rock, and of course there are tons of new movies that have come out since I have been gone. Hmmm I need to find a girl that would be interested in going to some movies. I know that movie dates suck because let's face it, all you do is sit there in the dark beside the person not talking and staring at a screen for 90 minutes but hey I don't want to go alone and this way I can kill 2 birds with one stone. I will post more here once I message some girls and hear back from them.

I spoke to Marissa on the phone on Thursday night and that was a lot of fun. She is a really bubbly easy going girl and she has a really sexy cut voice. She sounds much younger than she is. When I say that, what I mean is that the sound of her voice sounds very young, but what she is actually saying is not young. She just has a very youthful cute feminine voice and I really like it. She definitely has a very strong Spanish accent which I also think is cute. What was interesting about my phone conversation with her was the pace at which the conversation went. It was much slower than a conversation I would have had with someone who spoke perfect English, well what I mean is someone who has English as their first language.

I kind of like the fact that the pace of our conversations is slow. I have never been a big fan of rushing into things when it comes to meeting women. I like to take my time and let things move nice and slowly so that we can savor it for longer than most people get to. That is just me though and everyone is different, all I am saying is that I am really enjoying talking to this girl thus far and she seems like a great girl.

I am going to be taking her out for dinner on Friday and I am really excited about that and looking forward to it big time. I can not remember the last time I was so happy and excited for something. I have just had a permagrin on my face ever since she agreed to go out with me. Now I just have to pick a cool restaurant to take her to. When I finish this blog post I am going to Google it and figure out a great place to take her here in San Diego.

Now let me tell you about the other girl named Nila. I have been talking to her on MSN and we have both been using our webcams. She is a very interesting girl and she is not as straightforward and forthcoming as Marissa is. With Marissa what you see is what you get and I like that but with Nila she is a sneaky girl and she is always up to something. Also she has the most amazing breasts I think I have ever seen and she is always wearing low cut tops and teasing me on the webcam.

I told her I wanted to get together with her and she was oh really where are you taking me and I was like just come over to my house and let me ravage your body and she was like lol. I figured I would give it a try. I know it sounds odd but some of my friends have told me similar stories where the girl said yes. So I am working on taking her out as well and I am going to ask her if she is free on Saturday night and then I will take these two girls out back to back and that will be hella pimmp

I still haven't had a chance to message any new girls but I have already got back messages from 6 girls that I was talking to in the past. Like I said, I had contacted each one and attempted to rekindle things where we left off and so far 6 of them have responded but only 2 of them really seem to be that interested in me. The other 4 girls sent me a really short reply indicating to me that they are just being polite and really not that interested in pursuing anything with me which is just fine by me because I know there is a lot of hot girls that have joined the online dating site since I last did a fresh search and I also know that I need not be discouraged because I know that if you let the communication lag with these girls then they read into that and lose interest or wonder why you were interested in them and messaging them and now all of a sudden you stop talking to them for weeks then you pickup the conversation again.

Let me tell you about the two girls. One girl is named Nila and I think she is from Iran. I guess someone from Iran you would call Persian. She has long brown hair and very defined features and she has some pretty big natural breasts for the size of her frame. She is only 5'6" and very lean but yet she is packing some serious cannons up top. She seems to be very sweet and innocent and yet at the same time sort of looks sultry. I think she may have the best of both worlds but I am not sure yet. I know she has only lived in San Diego for 5 years, in fact she has only been in the USA for the last 6 years but her English is definitely good enough that we still have very clear communication. Even if the communication was lacking and there was a language barrier, that still probably wouldn't stop me from pursuing her just because she is so exotic and I am so curious. I told her we should talk on MSN and she gave me her info, I just haven't seen her online yet.

The second girl is named Marissa and she is Spanish. She moved to USA 9 years ago from Spain and she works for a clothing company in marketing. She speaks perfect English and she is very classy and refined. We have been chatting on MSN already and she said she wants to talk to me on the phone tonight to hear my voice and get a better gauge as to what kind of guy I am. I am looking forward to that conversation but I have to admit I am kind of nervous. I will let you all know how that goes for me.

Sadly, I have nothing to report back about Kristie. I thought that I had written a nice, long, moving letter to her explaining how I was different than all the other guys who were messaging her but I guess I did not convince her of anything or impress her much because I have not heard back from her. I may hear from her in the future and perhaps I am making a premature assessment right now but blah I am kinda pissed off. Once again I put all my eggs in one basket and I kind of let the other conversations I was having with other women fester and I am not sure if I can revive any of them.

This morning just before I logged in to write this blog entry I sent a message to all the girls who have ever messaged me telling them that I was away visiting family and that I am sorry I did not get back to them sooner and that I really wished I could have. So I have done all I can do with the girls that I was talking to. I sent each one a carefully thought out message that was relevant to the previous discussions we were having and all I can do now is sit back and see if any of them are still interested.

Right after I finish this blog entry, I am also going to go in and look at all the new girls that have joined the online dating site in the last 2 weeks because there is always lots of new girls joining the site all the time. This time though, I am going to stay on top of things and if I meet a girl that I like and that I get hung up on, I am still going to continue to maintain healthy dialogue with the other girls that I had messaged. I should have some good news soon on that front and I will share it with you all of course

I have now had a chance to chat extensively with all 6 of the women I was talking about in my last entry. I do not really feel like I have any connection with the Japanese or the Thai girl. I think that the cultural differences are just too big and I don't think I would be happy with either of those women because I do not understand them and we don't have much in common. I had a feeling that this might happen as I have always had a thing for white women. I wasn't sure why but now that I have actually had a chance to to meet some girls of different races it has only confirmed my suspicions. I can not totally express it clearly what made me feel this way, it just seems that they are very different in how they think and they have different morals and values than I do. So based on this I am working on these 4 girls.

The girl I like the most is named Kristie and she is really really super good looking. I am not sure if I have a chance with this girl or not but so far I think I do because she responded to me and seems to be quite sincere in her replies etc. She is 25 years old and she works for an internet company. She said she has got lots of messages from different guys online through the dating site and was asking me how I am different than all these other guys that have been messaging her.

It felt like an interview or something that I was applying for but I wrote her a long email telling her about myself and trying to be as honest as possible. The way I figure it, I don't want to pretend to be something or someone that I am not. If she doesn't like me for who I am then fine, lying to her or pretending to me something else may get my foot in the door but it will only derail the relationship later down the road. I am still waiting for her to reply to it. If she replies favorably then I will be asking her out on a date.

The other girls that I have been talking to are all cool, but none of them are as hot as Kristie and none of them seem as interesting as her. I am still talking to and communicating with the other girls, I just don't feel that motivated to really push those girls to the next level of communication and talk with them on msn and ultimately take them on dates etc. I really want to see what happens with Kristie first but really I know I should be hedging my bets here and not putting all my eggs in one basket. I have a tendency to do that and I guess that is what I am going to do because I don't want to string along any of these other girls knowing full well that I will drop them like a hot potato if and when I hear good things back from Kristie and she wants to pursue something with me.

I am back! Happy New Year my dear readers. I had a great new years eve and I hope you all did as well. My company rented out a room in a hotel here and we partied hard all night light drinking Moet and Cristal all night long. They really splurged this year and I am grateful that they did that. Some people have a hard time dealing with excess but personally I am all for it. I don't get hung up on all that moral bullshit if you know what I mean. Like I said I am looking for a girl who doesn't talk too much and at the same time doesn't talk too little either. Maybe I am just kidding myself that I am going to be able to meet someone cool, maybe I am jinxed. Heh just kidding, so far things are looking good with the online dating thing.

I finished making my profile. I took some sweet pics of myself and uploaded them and then I thought really hard and looked at other guy's profiles and I wrote some neat stuff and it is working thus far, not that I am really surprised that it is working, I mean I consider myself to be a smart guy and I picked pieces from other profiles that I thought were captivating. I tried to put myself in the shoes of a female on one of these dating sites and what might appeal to me. No I am not gay or homosexual but I am able to simulate what the girl might be thinking. By the way, my friggin elbow hurts and I think I have tendinitis in my right elbow which sucks because I am right handed and I can't do shit right now while it is sore. I want to work out and lift weights like I had been doing lately but I can't cuz I don't want to stress my arm. It better go away soon!

So yeah, things are going well with the online dating site that I joined. I have already got messages from 6 different girls that I like. The reason I phrased it like that is because I have LOTS of messages from girls that either replied to me or just initiated contact with me but only 6 are my type. I am very picky and I only want to hook up with girls that fall into my ridiculous categories if that makes any sense.

I am only attracted to lean or thin girls. Basically I am not attracted to heavy or fat girls or bbw or whatever you wanna call them. I am not saying those people are ugly, I am simply saying that I PERSONALLY do not find weight to be attractive. In the past I think I was coming across as mean or insensitive when it came to vanity but I was just trying to be honest. What I have learned recently is that I need to water down my version of reality to please other people. But why act in a way simply to please other people you ask? Well it makes life easier. Sometimes you can't just stick to your guns, sometimes you have to employ diplomacy.

The six girls that have been talking to me vary in age and race. 4 of them are white girls and 2 of them are of other ethnicities. One of them is Japanese and one of them is from Thailand so I guess she is Thai. So far they all seem nice and they are all looking for long term relationships. I am trying to meet some of them so that I have something more interesting to write in this blog for you guys.

I know you want to hear about the dates I take these girls on and I promise that will happen soon

Another sunny day in San Diego! Welcome to my blog everyone! My name is Andy and I am so happy that you are here to read about my adventures as a single guy in San Diego on my quest to meet single women on the Internet. Let me tell you about myself. I am 26 years old and I work for a furniture company. I do corporate sales for them. It is a pretty good job, I got a cool boss, and I make pretty good money. None of the girls I have met in real life have worked out. I am not going to sit here and say that I am jinxed or something... I mean the same thing might happen online. I might just be a magnet for problem women. I am totally looking to be in a relationship but so far all the girls I have met in real life have turned out to have serious issues.

They either talked too much, or not enough. Were too smart or too dumb. I feel like frickin goldilocks yo. I can't seem to find the right fit. I have just had bad luck I think but I am ready to change my luck so I decided to join an online dating site and meet women that way. Maybe I can weed out the crazies before I have to actually meet them and get emotionally attached to them

The online process seems pretty straight forward thus far. I have joined and began to work on my profile. Your profile is where girls can view your pictures and your description etc. They make it kind of easy for you with basic questions and stuff but there is a big box where you have to write like a paragraph and stuff about yourself and what you like and what you want etc. I am still working on this part. It is not as easy as you think to pull all this stuff from your mind and translate it into words. I am not totally sure WHAT I want to be honest and I already know that my profile is going to be a bit canned and I will be copying some stuff from other guy's profiles that makes sense.

To be honest all I am looking for a is a girl is not a god damned psycho beast. I just want someone who is normal and who is going to stay normal once we are together. I want someone I can ideally marry. Someone stable with real hopes and ambition. I have friends who have met and are already with girls like this. I wonder how and why I haven't been lucky enough to meet a girl like this. Sometimes I think I am being punished for something I did in my past. Like some kind of sick joke. Thanks God.

Ok seriously... I am determined to meet some girls online and I am not going to stop until I meet a real girl I can settle down with. I expect to have my profile done over the next couple days and then I will update again here.